Arcuate Uterus and EGGS!

So today I had my Ultrasound.
My shriveled up ovaries have some  good, mature follicles ready for O any time now. There is a "Prominent  Uterine Arcuate and pelvic adnexal vessels". This seems to mean there is  a 'dip' in the top of my uterus. Google suggests it is the lesser  concerning type of uterine malformation that occurs. I wonder though  whether this is a new development after pregnancy as I have never seen  this mentioned EVER in previous ultrasounds (and there have been a lot.
The  most stark item on the report (for me). G12P2. 12 pregnancies and 2  children. That is insane. Part of me wonders what the hell I am doing.

I  sat back this afternoon and read through this entire blog.  from my 2 major losses in 2008. I was so very lost.  So broken. I have come such a long way since then. Even reading back on  it it feels so surreal. It was so intense, clearly the worst year of my  life. But reading back on it I feel so, so very sad for 27 year old me.  It really reminded how much my eldest daughter's birth genuinely saved  my heart and soul.

So today's results..... I fell like this is  all going to come back to "bad luck:". Nothing significant that is  causing the losses, just another turn at bad luck. There has never been a  reason. I've had 9 losses now. 9. 9 losses with no real connection.  Nothing that signifies a simply problem. well, actually, nothing that  signifies any problem at all. These latest losses could just simply be  poor egg quality from an ageing reserve.
I did read some articles  that refer to "super fertile women". So women who conceive and implant  eggs that really should never make it that far. That would be one of the  things that make the most sense. I am super fertile. I usually get  pregnant if my husband just looks at me at the right time of the month.

Part of me thinks that the OBGYN is going to give me two options....
1. continue on and try naturally for as long as we can handle it emotionally
2. IVF with full PGD testing to ensure a healthy embryo.

I  was willing to do a medicated cycle, but my gut tells me that wont be  on offer. I think that the fact that you can see a dozen or more eggs  maturing on the scan will limit any medication use for the risk of  multiples.

It's all speculation I guess. Once again we continue  on try naturally this month (O imminent from scan) and then if not  successful we will go from there. OBGYN is first week of April on about 7  or 8 dpo. so just that tiny little bit too early to know if this month  is successful or not.

and for your viewing pleasure we even have pics!

Life, Children, And recurrent Miscarriages AGAIN

HELLO!!!
It's been 5 years or so since I updated this.
I snuck away to a pregnancy blog to document the pregnancy of our first child.
After my miracle girl arrived we lost another pregnancy (assumed by OB as an ectopic, but unconfirmed).

Next time round we were successful and we had our second little girl 2 1/2 years after the first.

We held off trying for a third (my idea) because Little Miss 2.5yr old had a huge stage of being a cranky chicken. Once her terrible 2's stage backed off a bit I felt more ready mentally.

Of course, as usual, we fell pregnant straight away. It lasted 5 days. The next cycle was a BFN, but we had really bad timing over Xmas due to the chaotic hours we were working. Month 3 of trying and another BFP...... that lasted a few days. Month 4 and another BFP.  This time I was confident. it was 10DPO, the line was visible without having to squint. My husband could see it, no squinting involved - proof enough that it was a real line! It even photographed well (clearly important when analysing with the two closest friends about it). The line was still good that night. It looked about the same the next morning. It was fainter in the PM. The next day it was definitely lighter in the AM. It got lighter and eventually I got AF (super heavy) a few days late. So I'm now having recurrent early pregnancy loss around implantation. Because this journey can never freaking be easy for me.

Saw the OB on CD2 and put together an investigation plan. 
Once again we have had a heap of bloodwork. Tomorrow I am booked in for a scan to check out my ovaries and uterus. 
We are allowed to try naturally again this cycle while we are undergoing testing. OUr next OB appt isnt until the first week of April. 

Bloodwork was done late on CD 3 but really it was only 36 hours into the start of the cycle. (Late PM arrival, OBGYN next day, Bloods following morning).

My AMH is 6.7 pmol/L
this translates into .9 ng/ml

So clearly I am now of "advanced maternal age" - such a lovely phrase.


FSH - 5.4 IU/L - I believe this is normal

Prolactin - 74 mIU/L - this is low but I dont think that is an issue

New Blog

In a desperate attempt to prove my positivity to the world (and myself), I some how came up with the idea that a new Pregnancy Blog was in order.

I named it "Shh I'm Pregnant" as no one besides DP (and the internet people :) ) know I'm pregnant.

The new blog is here, its empty hahaha, but I hope you'll take a trip over there and follow me on this ride.

Shh I'm Pregnant


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4 Weeks and 1 Day Pregnant

OMFG

Hormones are making me have a meltdown already. But I'll get to that later......

Woke up to a temp increase, now cruising at 37.2 degrees!!! And a masssive case of nausea. Got up and had a quick sip of juice and felt a tad better. Then brushed my teeth to the ever present blood.

Once I got to work I just couldn't stomach my toast. I didn't feel like I was going to be sick, I just decided to have an instant aversion to vegemite toast. So I only ended up having a single slice of toast and my good ol' decaf coffee. Come morning tea I wasn't reaally hungry but decided to eat (feels like the right thing to do). After one corn/rice cake thingy it was like it sent my body a signal and next thing my stomach was grumbling like crazy and I could have eaten the whole packet!! The rest of the day went pretty smoothly, and I'm making a conscious effort to not draw attention to my stomach at all. I have a habit of holding my lower belly getting in and out of chairs when I'm pregnant. I'm pretty sure that that is how my sister worked out I was pregnant back in July 08.

When I got home I was exhausted!!! Where does that sudden onset of sheer exhaustion come from? I was considering whether I could go to sleep at 6pm and be able to sleep the whole way through!!! Instead I did a little light cleaning, and just tried to keep myself distracted as I was starting to feel emotional - no way I could have predicted the category 1 breakdown I was about to have.

At some point DP and I were talking about random things and he made a comment about the Metallica concert. I said there is no way I'll be going to that concert while I'm pregnant. And dp said yeah I didn't really think about you being pregnant that far into the future. And that's when it clicked, neither of us can actual picture me carrying this baby successfully. He wasn't being mean or unkind, he was just experiencing things the same way that I was. And that my friends is when I lost my *insert swear word*.

I think I came close to having a full blown panic attack. Must say, they're pretty crap. I was BAWLING and gasping for breath. And blubbering out incoherently that "my b-b-b-b-b-body is a f-f-f-f-f-f-failure at this" and "I'm not g-g-g-g-g-g-oood at b-b-b-b-b-b-eing p-p-p-p-pregnant" sniff sniff, blow snotty nose, wipe eyes with same tissue and realise that you may have put snot in your eyes, cue more bawling and ramblings of "n-n-n-ow there's s-s-s-snot in my eyes".

OH MY GOD I lost it. And it lasted for about two hours. DP could not calm me down. Because I'd get sooooo worked up and then worrying about what harm this was possibly doing to the baby and that would set me off again. It was a very vicious cycle. Everytime I would gasp for breath I would feel my whole body tighten and I just keep thinking about what this was doing to my baby.

My body IS crap at this. Its got a baaaad track record with pregnancy. And what I realised tonight is that one of two things are going to happen... I'm going to have a baby, or I'm going to have a miscarriage. It's unavoidable. One of those things is going to happen. And I can't be excited about one, because the fear of the over is to raw. If I get excited, and I lose this baby, I think my TTC days will be done. Its one to be positive, and I am doing that. I haven't run out and booked an immediate scan, like I really really want to. Instead I'm waiting til my first OB appointment in 3 weeks. I'm eating well and doing everything to nourish the life I'm creating. But I also look at it from the other perspective. If anything does go wrong, I need to be able to say with full confidence that I did everything I could possible do. So in my positivity I am also preparing myself for the worst. Its an emotional battle.

I hope that the next three weeks don't ruin me emotionally. I'm already tired, and the massive crying sessions just make it worse.

Please stick baby, you have no idea how much you are wanted

4 Weeks Pregnant

Well today was the never ending day of crying. I was so totally and utterly emotinally screwed uo today. Not sure why to begin with. I BAWLED.... at work. And I could not stop it. And then a girl had work had a m/c today, I'd know since basically conception :) and was sooooo devstated for her and her husband. The poor girl just lost the innocence of pregnancy. And so I continued bawling.

I bawled so much that eventually I decided that it would be a sensible idea to go home. Got home and rang my partner, he pretty much couldn't understand anything I said, which I think scared the daylights out of him as he assumed something was wrong. Poor man asked why I was 'crying over nothing' which set me off yet again. Took my awhile to realise that I'd scared him into thinking something was wrong again, and he wasn't just being mean to the overly emotional pregnant woman.

I feel a bit sore and full in my uterus, which is very scary. I 'knew' I was pregnant the second time because of the full feeling in my uterus. That turned out to be an ectopic :( Its like a burnign 'hot' feeling and its a tad worrying. I'm just not sure what 'normal' is anymore. No idea how I will get through 3 weeks of thid before my scan. Very scared today. Worried I cried the baby out of position hahaha. I was sooo emotional, and I had some crampy after I stopped. I hope everything is ok in there.

3 Weeks and 6 Days Pregnant

Going to bed last night I was totally exhausted. But I just couldn’t fall asleep. I kept tossing and turning and trying to get comfy. Hence I woke up this morning feeling like absolute crap. My temp was 37.1 but I think that I may have been restless in the hours leading up to my alarm time.
I finally got up and first call of duty was to pee on my final HPT. I was very happy to see that it was much darker again. And I hadn’t had any more bleeding / spotting. After that I spent forever just procrastinating in front of the heater, caught up a little in the excitement that was a darker HPT than yesterday.
I went to the Medical Centre and was so pleased to find I had an AWESOME lady running pathology today. She said well why don’t we make these urgent and you can have your results this afternoon!!! Woo Hoo. Then I went and got a decaf coffee – blergh – I’ll just go without I think!!!
During the day at work I was tired on and off and had bouts of nausea throughout the day on and off. I really really want to eat ALL THE TIME, but nothing really appeals to me. I am however, craving meat. I can’t wait to get home and eat my steak!! I am going to have to learn how to cook it well done without burning it. Actually DP is the masterchef at our place; I’ll let him look after it, although I'm sure it goes against some special code to cook a steak well done!!

One of my biggest issues is that while I'm eating I feel good, but as soon as I stop the nausea returns. I thought about gum, but not really a fan, and that would probably just stimulate my saliva and stomach acids more.
I really need to find something that I can graze on during the day that won’t make me put on 25 kilos in the first 6 weeks J Please PM me if you have anu good ideas.

I got my results back this afternoon.....

11 DPO BHCG = 35
13 DPO BHCG = 115

So it more than doubled in 44 hours Mini-milestone 1 completed

Tomorrow I'll be 4 weeks and that will be another little step.

I truely am so excited, but fear is at the core of every emotion I have. I am so so scared that this will be taken away from us again. And I know that there is nothing I can do to change that fate. I'm eating right, looking after myself and doing all the things needed to facilitate a healthy and sustaiable pregnancy. There is nothing else I can do. If things go south this time, I think there will be a massive gap until we ever TTC again. DP just couldn't handle another loss.

But, we're being positive. This time, we're going to get a real live baby at the end!!!

3 Weeks and 5 Days Pregnant

So a little bit of whats happened might be in order!!!!

I got a BFN at 9 DPO, and was left with one IC test and First Responses. I really didn't want to use an FR's until I was at a remotely sane DPO. Not like the 7 dpo I had used the first one on

On the morning of 10DPO DP was restless and the dog wanted to play, and I was just buggered. It was frustrating the daylights out of me that everyone was awake at 6am on a Saturday morning. DP thought it was hysterical. But I was simply exhausted. I slept for another couple of hours thank god. So with FMU on 10 DPO I got up and tested with the IC. There was no real line to see. About an hour later I picked the test up and there was kind of a line. It was one of those lines that had to be on the right angle, in the right light, with the squinitng eyes. But I 'knew' it wasn't an evap. If I had given the test to DP (or any man for that matter) I can guarantee that they would not have seen a second line. I was quietly confident on the inside, but kept it to myself. During the day if I didn't eat when I thought about it, my tummy felt a little queasy. And I all I wanted was chilli sauce from Oporto's for lunch - that should have been a giveaway . I decided that from then I'd hold my pee for four hours and test again with a First Response. I managed to last about an hour and a half before I thought my bladder would explode. I almost didn't test but realised I had a spare for the next morning anyway. So at 4 in the afternoon of 10 DPO I POAS. And OMFG it was a . It was a faint line, but obvious, and no squinting required! I didn't tell DP. I wanted to get bloods done first. Actually I wanted to make sure that it wasn't in my ovary before I told him. He had massive issues when Dr repeatedly told us I could die from the Ovarian Ectopic.

11 DPO I POAS again with FMU, and got a darker positive, still faint, but darker then the afternoon before. I went to Dr's to get my antenatal panel and my B-HCG. With my history he gave me a repeat series for B-HCG, so I am actually going back tomorrow to see if they double.

2 hours after I got home I caved and told DP, so much for keeping it a secret til I knew it was in the right place He was exactly the same as me, a little excited, a lot nervous.

I did yet another HPT in the arvo and it was darker again. And hour after that I had some spotting. A little bit of brown and a little bit of red. I practically had a nervous breakdown. I cried for the excitement, the fear, the nervousness, the hope and every other emotion I'd have over all my pregnancies. The thought of this getting taken away before 4 weeks was so scary. But then there wasn't any more. And I thought perhaps it might be an implantation bleed. I had a MASSIVE temp dip at 9 DPO, so I'm hoping that implantation is the answer

I woke up on 12 DPO in asbolute fear of going to the bathroom and with a massive miagraine from my cryfest. I managed to hold it til 9am and went and POAS again. There was a little bit of brown in my CM but nothing that appeared fresh. HPT was darker again, and I resolved to spend the day in bed resting. Had another teeny tiny blob of pink in the early arvo, but now its back to being a bit creamy, with no real discolouration. I got my B-HCG results back and at 12pm on 11DPO they were 35. So blood test again in the morning and pray that the numbers have doubled.

I am so nervous, so terribly excited. I can't believe I'm pregnant again. Part of me thinks that surely its our turn to have a baby this time!! And then I thnk that there is still so much time for something to go wrong. I get a pain on my left side and I think oh no it's in my ovary again! I try and think positive that 'hey I've had an implant bleed' - never had one of those!!! So maybe this is a good thing.

It's hard, it's exciting, it's frightening and its emotionally draining, and I'm only 3 weeks and 5 days pregnant

Mini milestones. 4 weeks on Wednesday. Find out on Wednesday if BHCG has doubled. 5 or 6 weeks will find out if it's in the right spot!! I hope the OB says 6 weeks because if everything is ok, I'd like to be able to see the heartbeat

I'll ring the OB and the morning and I guess we go from there. Progesterone and Aspirin are definite possibilities too!

Thank you to those who have sent words of congratulations, support and encouragement. It really is so wonderful to have so much support, and I appreciate it so much. Especially because the only person who knows IRL is DP. Think sticky thoughts for us please!

P.S the lines on the test are much darker in real life!!!